Tiny House Living Perspectives by Hari of the Tiny House Family
Last night, I read Alex’s post and the wonderful discussion that followed on “Let’s Face it: Tiny Houses are Not for You.” Rather than downsizing to tiny or some ideal size, imagine right-sizing your life. What space do you need to live happily? More importantly, how can you make the most of where you live now?
We’ve just set the foundation for our “big” house, and we are all feeling nostalgic. For a growing family of 4, we know we need the extra space our “big” house will provide, but we realize that our time in our tiny house is finite. It’s bittersweet.
It’s been 20 months of pure growth! We might live in our tiny house for another year or so; we really could live in this house for the rest of our lives, but the constant compromise on our solitude and creative endeavors doesn’t feel right for raising two creative kids. Knowing we are building our right-sized house feels good and makes our time in this house that much more precious. I imagine the lessons we’ve learned while living tiny will help us navigate our new space with peace.
Downsizing to tiny forces compromise. Compromise can make big things happen, like building a mortgage-free dream house. During the compromise, unexpected and amazing gifts appear. For us, the gifts are deeper relationships and connection as well as a clearer vision of how we want to live our lives. It’s like we’ve been in some sort of therapy–the therapist is a house, and she made us fall deeper in love.
Our ultimate goal: build a mortgage-free micro-homestead.
Our plan has three phases:
1) Save for and buy land
2) Save for and build a tiny house as a “temporary shelter”
3) Save for and build our main house
We are starting the final phase! We’ve lived in our 8′ x 21′ tiny house happily for 20 months, but a little more space will give us the room to explore our creative work more deeply. For example, our son, Archer, is a musician. He bangs out wonderful rhythms on the ceiling of his loft. In my better moments, I tell him that is a wonderful rhythm, but it’s too much in the tiny house. He needs a space to make loud music.
Our daughter, Ella, is an artist, and needs space to make art with clay and paint. I am a writer and struggle to find the quiet I need to really focus my words. Karl needs space to design and dream. We’ve adapted and found ways to keep up our creative practices, but I sense that our creativity will surge with a bit more space. We’ll see.
Our “big” house is 828 carefully-designed square feet. For a growing family of four, that seems (at least now) to be right-sized for us.
No one else can say what is the right size for your home. It is the most intimate and personal space there is. Try listening to your home; it has lessons to teach. Make the most of where you live right now.
Latest posts by Hari Berzins (see all)
- Tiny House Family Teaching eCourse on Mortgage Freedom - January 22, 2015
- Tiny House Living Perspectives from a Tiny House Family - December 21, 2012
- How Tiny Houses Give You More Time for Relationships & Giving - December 1, 2012